Relationship Concerns



Content warning: This page and its links contain information about relationship violence and/or sexual assault.

Relationships exist on a spectrum, from healthy to unhealthy to abusive—and everywhere in between. It can be hard to determine where your relationship falls, especially if you haven’t dated a lot.

Aspects of Healthy Relationships

  • Respect
  • Honesty
  • Safety
  • Mutual support of each other and each other's choices, even if you disagree
  • Having an equal say and respecting each other's boundaries
  • Time and space for both of you to study or hang out with friends or family
  • Sharing your feelings without being afraid of negative consequences
  • Any sex is consensual sex that is wanted by both you and your partner

Warning Signs of Unhealthy Relationships

  • Checking your cell phone or email without your permission
  • Threatening statements
  • Constant put downs and insults
  • Emotional or financial control
  • Restrictions on your time or activities outside the relationship
  • Extreme jealousy or insecurity
  • Explosive temper
  • Isolating from family or friends
  • False accusations
  • Physical harm of any kind
  • Possessiveness
  • Controlling behavior
  • Sexual coercion or non-consensual sex

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Additional Information

Mental Health Emergencies
Emergencies During Regular Office Hours (9 a.m. to 5 p.m., Monday - Friday)

Contact emergency services through the CMHS front office at 617-627-3360.

After-Hours Emergencies (5 p.m. to 9 a.m. and on weekends)

For mental health crises, the after-hours Counselor on Call can be reached by dialing CMHS at 617-627-3360 and following the prompts. For more information, please visit our Mental Health Emergencies page.

Visit the CARE Website  Tufts' Center for Awareness, Resources, and Education (CARE) may be helpful for students in unhealthy relationships.